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How to fulfil that Threesome Fantasy

So you have decided to fulfil that fantasy and have your first threesome but where do you start? Well finding a possible playmate to join you in the bedroom is the next step, but you as a couple have to decide on the method you will use to achieve it, that suits the both of you. Weather you hire a professional like myself who specialises in Couples, or join an online adult site or attend a swingers event or even a meet and greet. just keep in mind that some methods of meeting someone can be long and drawn out, therefore can be frustrating before you cross threesome off your list.

If your fantasy is to have a guy join you and you partner, this may be easier to achieve than finding a single female to join. Single females in the swinging scene are a commodity & not many of them means they can be picky about who they spend their playtime with. In any case if it's a guy or a girl you want to invite into your bedroom, then it's very important to find someone that you click with, who you can feel comfortable with & also are sexually attracted too. Organising a private play date, will be harder to arrange, as you will need to meet lots of possible play friends, before you find the possible candidate. Attending a swingers club, depending on the day, would be the quickest way to have a threesome, but it also depends on whether you are comfortable in the exhibitionist & voyeur environment of the swinging scene. There could be many possible playmates in the one place & this could be a much simpler option, but most of the time you will probably not develop any friendships outside the evening & so no possible future play dates which will mean you have to start at square one for your second experience.

  1. Discuss the expectations each of you have about the night. While I always suggest going in with no expectations and going with the flow, there is always at least one person who gets disappointed because things “didn’t turn out” which suggests they had a way they expected or hoped for it to go and they obviously didn't communicate them… Communication and understanding what each other wants for this experience will ensure everyone is happy at the end. So get all potential expectations and hope’s out on the table before the big event so you know what you are both expecting from each other as well as the third person, that way you can both lead the night in the same direction.
  2. Decide how the third person fits in, also known as the play rules or boundaries. Is the third person purely for one of you or do you want their attention to be on both? And if you want it on both, is it ok for their attention to be on just one for a little while? As that sometimes happens. Also, are there any actions you aren’t comfortable with the third taking or being involved in? If it’s your first threesome experience, you might prefer it to be play only and no actual sex, or perhaps it just for a bisexual exploration so the sex with the third is just with the same sex partner. Once you work out how you want your third to participate, let them know your play rules or boundaries otherwise they will just go with the flow and may inadvertently try something one of you isn’t comfortable with.
  3. Have a safe word which let’s everyone know you need a few moments or to discuss something before going further, you know, a “time out”. With it being your first threesome experience there is one thing you can’t really plan for and that’s how you will actually cope emotionally when it’s all happening. To create an extra sense of security (which is the best feeling to go into this with), agree to have this, so emotions don't impact their enjoyment of the night.
  4. Decide how you are going to end the night. If your at a club, well thats easy it just ends when the event ends but for a private event you may host at your place or hotel, then you need to decide how the event will wrap up. Are they sleeping over or would you prefer they hit the road? Have you got a separate bed for them or are they sleeping with you guys? etc and let them know the options so they can decide what they are comfortable with. Also the sleeping over option, would be good if too much alcohol was consumed. Though I don't recommend drinking too much before a threesome, as it effects judgement.
  5. Remember this is your first time and just like when you had sex for the first time or had your first serious relationship, you didn’t get those 100% right either. To minimise potential issues, stick to what you both agreed to for the night in terms of your boundaries but know that you can’t plan for every scenario so if you haven’t discussed something, assume it’s a “not ok” and discuss it in the debrief. After the event discuss how it made you feel, what you liked, what you didn't, etc but be honest, basis of a solid relationship and especially couples that swing is honest Communication.

Clear communication is the key to success in this and you can’t do enough of it, between yourselves and with your playmate/s so you are all on the same page. I hope this gives you an outline to start planning, and making it awesome. If you would like me to help make your fantasy a reality, then contact me, I have lots of information on my couples page, and I would love to meet you both. If your single and want to experience your first threesome then I can arrange this for you also, as I have lots of sexy girlfriends to invite to play, information on my playmates page. If you would like to attend a swingers event with me, then check out the information on my swingers page.

Good luck and above all have fun, remember SEX is to be enjoyed and in the moment.

Kellie xx

Kellie Blair - Melbourne Escort

As published on International Website http://simplysxy.com/articles/2014/10/15/how-to-have-a-threesome/

 

Kellie Blair
Kellie Blair
Kellie Blair is PRIVATE Melbourne Escort for men, women and couples specialist. Impeccable reputation with over 45+ positive reviews since entering the industry in 2012. Genuinely bisexual, sexy and passionate.

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